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This complex story belongs in the same category as 'About Schmidt' in that we are invited for an intimate look at the inner thoughts of a normal, average woman: Grace Alcott. The reader almost matures with the central character from college days into grandparenthood - gaining increased confidence, yet never quite successfully dodging life's questions and doubts. Real life is truly reflected in Grace Alcott's story. Being Mrs. Alcott is a beautiful depiction not of 'and they lived happily ever after,' but rather, 'they continued to struggle and live as happily as they knew how.' An empathetic reader gains a wise perspective on a parent's view of the world: reflections of life's successes and failures from marriage to child rearing to retirement.

I would recommend this to anyone with a mother, sister or wife, and I would pass this along as recommended reading to mothers, sisters and wives as well.

I finished the book last night. I can't stop thinking about the story! It makes me remember things about my own realatives and how they relate to each other. How giving your children everything effects their attitudes and outcome.

I enjoyed this book. More importantly, I think the author did an unusually good job of examining generational attitudes about familial responsibilities - of children, to heed and respect their parent's wishes; of parents, to provide financially for their children, both in childhood and after; of spouses, to provide for, care for, and respect the wishes of the other.

Actually, the whole story is a very nuanced examination of differing attitudes towards responsibilities. We see spousal and parent-child responsibilities highlighted, of course. But also present are isses of responsibility to the other in extra-marital relationships, of self-responsibility, and even professional responsibilites (in real estate and the law).

I must say that it is refreshing (and unusual) to see a young novelist who can present a view of an earlier, and very different, paradigm of marriage that is clear-eyed and fair, rather than heavily colored by either nostalgia, or judgements based on our currently popular feminist models. Ms. Geary deserves 5 stars for this alone!

"Being Mrs. Alcott" is quite a bit more than a good read... and the "more" is done well enough that I feel it deserves 5 stars. This is a book that will come back to mind, and back... one of the marks of literature vs. entertainment fiction.

Throughout her life Grace had always behaved in a proper manner --- proper for someone raised in a well-connected, upper class New England family. Grace went to the best schools, wore the nicest clothes, and enjoyed a life of leisure and luxury, never earning a single paycheck. As she was growing up, Grace's parents made all the decisions for her. Her mother even orchestrated the perfect wedding without considering Grace's wishes.

When she married Bain Alcott, an ambitious young man from her own socioeconomic class, Grace's life did not change so very drastically because someone else still earned all the money and made all the decisions. Bain provided them with a very comfortable lifestyle that included a lovely beachfront home on Cape Cod. Grace followed whatever decisions her sometimes-overbearing husband made, even though she did have some ideas of her own. When she disagreed with Bain she confided only in Prissy, her rather unconventional friend of whom Bain did not approve.

The Alcotts suffered a devastating loss during the early years of their marriage when the elderly babysitter left their baby daughter alone in the tub to answer the phone. In an instant Sarah drowned. Grace suffered the loss in her characteristic proper manner, gracefully and silently. She later had two sons. Bain spent most of his time and energy earning a living, and Grace practically raised their sons alone. The family's social life consisted of tennis, the country club, and other similar activities. The boys were denied nothing.

Though Grace attempted to instill the values with which she had been raised, her sons often did not behave in what she considered the proper manner. As the boys grew up they became strangers to Grace. They did not respect their mother and had no appreciation of all that she had done for them. They assumed that the comfortable lifestyle their workaholic father provided was their birthright and were ill-prepared for their adult lives, which involved jobs and marriage.

From outward appearances Grace and Bain had a nearly picture-perfect life; Bain believed in keeping up appearances. Behind the scenes, however, the picture was much less appealing. Bain's investments suffered a huge loss. Even with all his business acumen, he could not reverse it, so he decided to sell their Cape Cod home. He made this decision without even asking for Grace's opinion. Grace loved the house and was deeply pained at the thought of having to give it up.

Grace received some upsetting news from her doctor that she chose, rather uncharacteristically, not to share with Bain even though the doctor urged her to do so. The doctor wanted to run a series of tests to confirm his suspicion that Grace had breast cancer, the same disease that took Grace's mother's life at age 45. Grace decided that her possible diagnosis, which she believed was a definite diagnosis, would remain her guarded secret. She decided to live out whatever remaining time she had in her own way. She did not want to be pitied and fussed over, and be in the process of dying. She wanted to carry on as always, being Mrs. Alcott, and just fade away when the time came.

Grace's fantasy of just fading away was just that --- a fantasy. The reader realizes that real life doesn't work that way. Author Nancy Geary keeps the reader keenly interested as the novel reaches its unpredictable conclusion.

--- Reviewed by Carole Turner

I've read all four of Ms. Geary's books and this one is quite different from the other three. It isn't a mystery. It's more of a character study taking Grace from her courtship in the 60s up to the present. Ms. Geary has done an excellent job of not stereotyping each individual, showing that everyone of us has good and bad traits. Her insight and perception over the decades of time covered is magnificent. I couldn't help wondering how she could know this much about love, marriage, human tendencies, etc. Her observations were very perceptive, and interesting. Almost educational.

A very easy read with one-dimensional characters of most interest, I should think, to those familiar with Boston and Chatham.